This was my first Mother’s Day, and I quite enjoyed it. My beloved put much effort into making sure I felt appreciated. For the last few months I have expressed my desire for alone time. Time to rest, to get a massage, to eat food without worrying about the baby’s internal clock going off and requiring to be held in one hand while trying to gracefully finish my meal with the other.
My darling beloved woke up with the baby this morning and allowed me to sleep until I was ready to get up. Then made me a delicious berry pancake breakfast.
After which Arthur, my mother, and myself went to the Goddess Temple to attend a Mother’s Day ceremony. In this ceremony we went on a guided meditation to connect with our inner child. The group received a group tarot reading. We then moved into a relaxed tea setting and conversed about memories of our mothers and memories as mothers.
We came back to circle and shared what accomplishments we felt we achieved as a mother, what we felt as a child with our own mothers, and what we wished to leave behind. I myself shared how I felt most accomplished about the birth of my son. It was at home with a midwife and no medical interventions. This felt so huge to me because for my entire life I remember hearing how my own mother could not imagine birthing me naturally because I was “too big” (to her credit I was 11 lbs 3 ozs, although personally I am a believer that the body grows a baby it can birth). I was told stories of how birth in my matriarchal line is traditionally dangerous and scary. So to hold my boundry, trust my body, trust the goddess, and trust in my birth team I was able to birth my 9 lb 10oz baby boy perfectly was a great accomplishment.
I am grateful to my mother for the support she gave me throughout my childhood; and continues to so as best she can in my adult life.
I choose to leave behind the need for perfection and imagined realities that I force upon myself instead of embracing my current already perfect reality as it is.
Attending this ceremony was a beautiful way to connect and honor myself and my journey as a mother in a way that felt connected with my faith. I recommend either having a ceremony for yourself, finding a ceremony near by, or facilitate your own motherhood honoring ceremony to offer to your community.
After this my mother took me to my gift that my beloved had arranged for me, which was a few hours at our traditional Japanese bath house here in Ashland called Chozu Bath and Tea Gardens. I honored and loved up myself by soaking in a beautiful warm private outdoor pool while indulging in snacks and tea. I sweat out my toxins in the steam room (which I run into another temple mama and was able to connect with her!), then I gleefully received a 90 minute massage that worked out all my baby carrying knots.
This was a super special Mother’s Day gift from my beloved because for months now I’ve been taking about how I wanted time alone, I wanted rest, I wanted to be able to eat without a crying baby and exist for myself for a while. It was incredibly heartwarming to realize my beloved DOES listen to me. He heard what I have been saying and cultivated an environment in which I could receive those things! He came to pick me up, and noticed how happy and relaxed I was, he even called me bubbly which isn’t a word that has been used to describe me in a while.
So if you are looking for a way to honor the new mother in your life, I highly recommend facilitating a day at the spa for her! She will never forget it.
If you happen to be in the southern Oregon area, check out Chozu in Ashland, it is a must!
Beneditito Family
Queen Andelynn Pendragon ❤️👑
